Welcome feedback is how we learn

The most important topic of this chapter Susan described as “being open to the effect you have on the people around you and learning about your effect through welcoming feedback.”
Also the one before in the aspect that welcoming feedback is an essential aspect of relating complements this chapter nicely. Susan described it as “When you are not open to how your actions are being received, then you′re controlling”.

“Avoiding discomfort is dangerous and can lead to hearing bad news only after it is too late to do anything about it, like after your marriage is already on the rocks.”

This chapter is very important to me because it help me to analyze how sometimes I think that all that I do is ok and how I want to be in a zone of comfort all the time. This I like to relate with the last quote. Sometimes for avoiding things that I really don’t like to do, then I have to live horrible things because that lack of responsibility to do things that are not the ones that we like to do the most but are those things that can help us to reach those goals or those things that we really like in our life. I relate also this chapter with the messages of one of my favorite preaches “Joyce Mayer” when she mention that we have to take care with our feelings because many times our actions are based in our feelings instead of what we know that is right to do.

Also this chapter makes me reflect on how many times I ask someone to give me feedbacks or I called the attention of a friend or of a person with whom I had worked to give some feedbacks. I consider that I am that type of person that likes to learn on how to do what I don’t know how to do and if someone gives me feedbacks I like to put attention and correct what I also conclude with that person that I´m doing wrong.  But I also has to confess that I like those feedbacks in my labored or education life, because now that I´m married for me sometimes has been very difficult when my husband called my attention to ask me for something that I´m doing wrong. Some seconds pass after that and I am only giving him excuses of my actions. That is something that this chapter help me to recognize and to work in that.
Ways to welcome feedback

1. Asking for it out of the blue.
2. Asking for it in response to something another person says.
3. Noticing something that piques your interest.
4. 4. Having a regularly scheduled feedback ritual.