Introduction

The personality of the author:
Susan Campbell the author of this excellent book describe to the readers a little introduction and the story of her personality to helped us understand better the chapters of her book. She mentioned some bad belief that she has in here I’m going to numerate them:

#1 If you express your wants too strongly, you’ll get punished.
#2 you need to shut down your feelings to avoid making others uncomfortable.
This part of the personality of Susan Campbell remind me to one of my favorite preachers her name is Joyce Meyer and she most of the time talked about the feelings and how if we didn’t take care of the damage that they can cause in us we can hurt ourselves or like Susan is saying to us in here can makes others feel uncomfortable.

#3 No matter how much you want something, even if you holler about it, you won’t get it.
#4 and 5 you can avoid painful feelings by becoming judgmental or critical of others; and it’s not safe to talk back to an angry person. This part is something that all humans in the world didn’t manage very well because we prefer to avoid the painful feelings and when we didn’t imagine we are criticizing other because of the things that we didn’t are. This type of being can harm us and many relationships that we have because if we don’t manage this painful feelings we can create some critical that can make us become alone in this world.

Honest Communication becomes your “awareness practice”- your vehicle for noticing what you avoid (your irrational fears) and how you go about avoiding it (your control patterns).
Getting Real is about reclaiming, receiving and re-experiencing these buried parts of us. This is the essence of being a real person.

We are all Hypocrites
Should prevent us from seeing how our life really is-and from taking appropriate action. Shoulds are pretenses.

Once you stop trying to get reality to conform to your ideas and ideals and let yourself see, feel and express what is, you will feel more empowered to deal effectively with your present situation.

You are okay just as you are
You are most lovable when you are most transparent. The persons would like to be and share their life with people that are transparent because it is a good way of communication and to avoid problems between the humans.