TAKING BACK PROJECTIONS DISCOVERING YOUR OTHER SIDE



This chapter is the sixth truth that Susan described us as taking back projections and how being aware of projections helps you to season your judgments with humility. She described to us some examples of the projection that someone can have only because of some pain from the past that some parent or person in the school have hurt you by words or physically. How those actions that we resented in our heart can affect our life projection years after those things happened. I worked so much about my past in the church. I try everyday to be thankful about what I have lived but also I recognized when I need some help. During my adolescence I assist to a physiologist that helps me very much to manage some problems that I have with my personality because of the problems that my parents are having in their marriage. This therapy was very useful for me because at some point I´m projecting a personality based on the relationship of my parents. Susan mentions in this chapter how inner conflicts are usually unconscious. If we didn’t analyze our judges to others or how we act in different circumstances we can live a life with inner conflicts because most of the time they are unconscious.

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Distinguishing Interpretations from Actual Behavior
We need to clean up our language if we want to Get Real and see things as they are.

 

Susan explain this as when we say something that we see as it was like that instead of saying I see this thing and I imagine that is like that because of something, instead of only making judgments because our criteria instead of asking what it really is.

We do an incredible exercise in MPC later than reading this part of the book. The activity consists in saying to some of the pioneer something that we see in him or her and what we imagine of that thing that we see. It helps all of us to know how the others see ourselves and what are we projecting to the others. That exercise makes us be more open and transparent persons through each other. Many times in my life I judge people because of my interpretation of what I see instead of being transparent with the people and say to them I see this thing and I interpret like this, does my interpretation is correct? But we as humans prefer only to imagine things and do our own interpretations living a false idea of many things. This book wake me up that sense of living more as what is real and not as my imaginations dictate to me how are some realities.



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How to receive projections
Receive projections isn’t a very easy task but Susan mention in this chapter that active listening buys you time and gives your mind something to do instead of reacting. This tip is very useful because sometimes we didn’t finish to listen what others want to tell us about ourselves or about whatever that if we only listen some words that we don’t like we immediately react instead of finished listening and analyze what the others want to tell us.
At the end of this chapter Susan summarize some points that I would like to quote in here because I have live them and I consider that all who are interest in being a honest person with himself and with others need to know.

• Whenever you have an idea about how another person should be, you are revealing as much about you as you are about the other person.

• Understanding projection can help us be more humble about our judgments of others. (This is the one that talk to me because sometimes I judge some people without analyzing what they are living and how is their situation in theirs own houses or schools.

• When you think someone is projecting onto you, see if the shoe fits you — even though it may fit her better.